Pat’s Rules for Success and Happiness #3

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Pat’s Rules for Success and Happiness #3

 

This is the 3rd in a series- these are my rules for Happiness and Success.  #1 is HERE, #2 is HERE.

These rules are what works for me- check out the first two for how I came up with ‘em.  I’m listing them in no particular order.

Pat’s #3 Rule for Success and Happiness

You’re responsible for your own happiness.

This is another tough one, but, in my opinion, not as tough as #2.

In a nutshell, “if something makes you feel good about yourself, do more of that.  If something makes you feel bad about yourself, stop doing it.”

Depression has been a part of my family dynamic for at least 3 generations.  My father’s father, for example, had a great job with the railroad.  He was a book-keeper- which, in the 1920′s and 1930′s was a very prestigious job.  He had an office, wore a suit, and carried a train-timing pocket watch which I still have. Read the rest of this entry »

Rules for Success and Happiness #2

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Pat’s Rules for Success and Happiness #2

 

You may remember that in Rule #1 I told you about the questions that started me on my path towards happiness:

I talked it over with my coach, and she said, “start noticing when you’re happy – what are you doing?  Where are you?  Who are you with.  Do more of that.  Notice when you’re unhappy.  What are you doing?  Who are you with?  Where are you? Do less of that.”

Rule #2 is actually something I discovered before then.  I wrote a chapter on it in my first best-selling book, “Your Portable Empire,” called “Kali, the benevolent destroyer.

That chapter resonated with a lot of people.  One reader, who went on to become a fairly famous Internet Marketer, named her dog Kali to remind her of this one.

Pat’s #2 Rule of Success and Happiness

Delete what’s not working to make room for what works.

This is probably the toughest rule.  It’s also one of the most valuable. Read the rest of this entry »

Rules for Success and Happiness – #1

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What are the rules for Success and Happiness?

 

Well, for most of my life I was broke and miserable.  Then some stuff changed and now I’m successful and happy.  It was a process.

For example, I got successful years before I got happy.  Coming from generations of O’Bryans who struggled to make enough money, once I had more money than I needed to pay that month’s bills, I assumed I’d be happy.

Wrong.

So, of course, I tried to fix the problem by making even more money.  That didn’t work.

I talked it over with my coach, and she said, “start noticing when you’re happy – what are you doing?  Where are you?  Who are you with.  Do more of that.  Notice when you’re unhappy.  What are you doing?  Who are you with?  Where are you? Do less of that.”

Well, duh.

I paid $180 an hour for that, and it was a bargain.

After noticing what made me happy and what made me unhappy and adjusting my life for more happiness, I’ve come up with a few “rules” for success and happiness that work for me.

You might consider taking a few months and doing the above exercise.  If it works, send me a check for $180.  (Just kidding)

In the meantime, I’ll share what works for me.  These are my rules in no particular order.  Since today’s sunset was pretty stunning, let’s start with:

Pat’s #1 Rule for happiness

Live someplace that makes you smile.

I’ve traveled a lot.  Back when I played music for a living, I toured all over the South U.S. and Europe.  Of all the places that I’ve been, the one that makes me smile consistently is where I’m living now – about 25 miles from Big Bend National Park.

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My Front yard

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